In this past couple of decades, scientists have found that it is possible to cure broken, grieving hearts. American researchers conducted experiments on 70 patients who suffered from the “broken heart syndrome” which primarily is the health bc id notions that stem from the stress caused by psychological and emotional trouble. The group that was studied involved patients from Rhode Island who suffered from this condition between 2004 and 2008.
This syndrome is medically referred to as Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy and it was a first discovered by Japanese researchers in 1990s. Although the symptoms of this syndrome resemble to some extent, a heart attack such as chest pains and dyspnea it is temporary and treatable.
This Jumatul Wida, I share with you some of the many Aayaat of the Kalaamé Paak that help me mend my perpetually broken heart. Whether it is loss of loved ones, (I can’t quite manage death since I was very young), people changing their heart or priorities or hormones in more recent years in light of pregnancy and breastfeeding. More recently, weaning.
As Mirza Asadullah Ghalib very aptly said
Merī qismat meñ gham gar itnā thā
Dil bhī yā-rab ka.ī diye hote
Very aptly also reinforcing the connection of gham and dil.
- Indeed with Hardship is ease (94:6)
This one has such a strong place in my heart. It’s just like a hug in words. It proverbially gathers me up in an embrace and makes everything okay.
- No doubt in remembrance of Allah hearts find comfort. (13:28)
It’s such a kind reminder. When in despair and feeling that nobody understands what you are going through (yes. My teenage never left). It is all about allowing difficult times to bring us closer to Allah ta’ala. I got one can’t imagine life another way.
- Perhaps you hate something and it’s good for you, and perhaps you love something and it’s bad for you. Allah knows while you don’t know. (2:216)
I don’t think there is any solace over and above this one. Perhaps the only thing that I have never relied on any plans despite my innate LOVE to plan. When they don’t go according to what I thought they would (unless there’s actual hurt incited by people involved)
The amount of resilience this one gives is Aazmooda (fried and tested).
- Whenever my servants ask about Me, indeed, I am near. I respond to the call of the supplicant whenever he calls upon Me. (2:186)
Is there ANYTHING more comforting than having the Ultimate, Almighty Allah on call around the clock? The relief that comes with having a direct connection and relationship with the Creator is massive.
- Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home. (13:24)
Allegedly this is what the angels will say when we reach Jannat (talk about optimism eh!) but yes, if we go by no. 3 up there, this one isn’t all that tough to achieve. Also the fact that Allah ta’ala assures us that whatever we go through is not in vain, there’s always light at the end of the tunnel
Another broken heart attack comes each time Ramzan ends. As my Nani would say “Maloom nahi aglaa Ramzan Naseeb hoga ya nahi” (Dont know fi I will live to see Ramzan next year or not)
I got accustomed to feeling this way since my preteens. The fleeting nature of life is such, and the realisation is essential to keep us grounded.
Remember us in your prayers this Jumatul Wida
