Mamas Are Human

Mamas Are Human

I have been blogging since 2002 or so when few in Pakistan even knew what a blog was. Made a ton of friends around the world, connecting over Mir, Ghalib, Faiz Ahmed Faiz and likeminded-ness. I started this specific blog when I had my only child. I wrote the first post a night before I delivered, originally on Medium and then re published it on this website when I kicked it off. I just felt everything is rushing by and I want to document. Every pore of my existence was compelling me to hold on to time and to forever remember the inexplicable feeling it was. Every single moment brought a new emotion with it. I didn’t want it to fade away. I wanted it to linger. I wanted it to stay long enough for me to be able to reminisce. I have dementia in both sides of my family history. Parkinson’s disease, Alzheimer’s, Strokes. Name it and we have it. I have been hypertensive since I was 16 years old (which was a very long time ago). Being realistic, I am half sure I won’t have my memory accompany me as long as most people out there would.

So I write. I write to be reminded of what being a new mom felt like. To be reminded of the rapturous joy my child brings to me every day of my life.
Which is what brings me to the fact that
Mamas are multifaceted.

They are ALLOWED to be multipotentialites. They are required to master more than one thing, not just multitask that is touted around.

To magically heal booboos, to fill tummies big and small. To spot that speck of dust and know the best book to suggest. To hug everyone and wipe tears to sing and dance. To figure Colour theory to fix every unscrewed screw.

We don’t JUST cook.
We don’t JUST craft
Or Just do fantastic makeup (for which we may or may not have taken classes when found out we are having a girl child. Just saying)
We don’t JUST work all day while caring for our homes
We don’t JUST raise these incredible human beings while struggling to photograph them.

We do it all. 
Along with being a fully functioning human being with a myriad of interests and passions and opinions on current affairs that pop up every day!

I share my child’s funny stories. 

I talk about gender politics. 

I talk about Breastfeeding 

I talk about Gentle Parenting as a Desi (which is rarer than I thought it would be)

I talk about life as an introvert 

I talk about being an Empath and the curse and joy of absorbing energies that surround us. 

I talk about Skincare and it’s lack thereof in my life

I talk about books (SO MUCH)

I talk about Events I want to go to. In my city. Or another city. Or even other countries. 

I talk about travel. My travels with my child but not necessarily always focusing on her. 

I talk about nature. 

I talk about Feminism

I talk about the taboo surrounding Periods and the need to love ourselves more through it 

I talk about the unpopular opinions I hold with my head held up high. 

I talk about Special Needs Children and the importance of normalising their life experience as well as ours navigating around them just the way we navigate around other people. 

I talk about the trees of my land

I talk about gardening. 

I talk about Music. A lot of music. Classical, Indian and Western. 

I talk about Entrepreneurship and mentor Startups.

I do this so my child can one day read and know that a woman is as multi faceted as it comes and it is fine to be who you are. To not just project ONE aspect of your life but all of it. 

Because that is human. 

And Mamas are Human.